WHO AM I ?

What is your age?

10…..22…….36……48......60 or above

What have you done in your life till now!

Do you know yourself?

Really do you?

Sit down with yourself.

Write down “YOUR LIFE” just write about “Your Life.”

Pen down all of your Ambitions, Goals, Your aim. What all you want to achieve. What you have achieved so far! 

In turn, note down the events in your life that have already happened and that have shaped or affected you. When life brings problems or misfortunes it shapes our belief system and makes us think differently, but it also makes us . In general terms we call it as "Experience." These things you list are organically you, not a simple reflection of society. Take out some time, for the sake of your future! Write down your past life. It's about clarification and identification of issues.

•These issues might be keeping you from reaching your present potential and letting your true self blossom.

•Spend a little time clarifying the past in your timeline. A timeline is an incredibly objective method for marking down past occurrences in your life that you consider to be major. You can look at them as formation blocks and as changing experiences along your timeline without imbuing them with too much emotion (as would occur within a diary account). Keep it simple, real, and condensed to the major effects or lessons learnt from each past incident.

•When analysing negative past experiences, focus on what you learnt from them. Everyone has these blips in their timeline, but exaggerating or ignoring them won't help you. Instead, recognise that these experiences shaped you. Negatives serve as a experiences and make us grow. They are the key to success.

•So many people live within unhappy circumstances and yet will not take the initiative to change their situation because they are conditioned to a life of security, conformity, and conservation, all of which may appear to give one peace of mind, but in reality, nothing is damaging to the adventurous spirit. Do not be adamant; be innovative, open minded and ready to absorb experiences like a sponge. 

"CHANGE IS THE LAW OF THE UNIVERSE" - Bhagvat Gita

•As a single step will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.

•At the end of the timeline, come up with a few beliefs of yours that aren't based on logic, but are based on what you've been told. We all have them. Now, what do you actually think

1.DEVELOP A THOUGHT PROCESS

•Based on your past develop a thought process for the present to shape the future!

•Society has a very covert way of handing us the "misfits", condemning the "losers", idolising the
"beautiful", alienating the "strange." But here's a heads up: These describing words have no
basis in reality. How do you feel about the world around you? Think about what you believe to be
good and bad — not what anyone else has told you. Let the impact of what others what others have
taught you, get into your mind freely, impact is always beneficial, whatever it may be! Either it helps
you or you gain experience from it.

•Feel free to think more concretely. Thinking is a liberty provided to all, rich or poor, cruel or kind,
victim or criminal ; Everyone!! Do you actually agree with your parents' political or religious
affiliations? Is having a career really the most important thing to you? Think upon it! What is the
most importing things to you? Are they really worth it! What are doing for them?  Now all you have
to do is unlearn and then relearn. Only this time, relearn based on your gut. For developing a
thought process read some books, articles, watch videos. Develop an interest. 

Finally, Develop a thinking of your own. It should be temporary and mouldable.

2.TRUST

•What does trust mean?

•Trust means reliability, having confidence feel safe mentally, physically and emotionally.

•As I grew up, at home and school it felt dangerous to be myself—my whole self, including the parts that made mistakes, got rebellious and angry, goofed around too loudly, or were awkward and vulnerable.

•Not dangers of violence, as many have faced, but risks of being punished in other ways, or rejected, shunned, and shamed.

•So, as children understandably do, I put on a mask. Closed up, watching warily, managing the performance of "me." There was a valve in my throat: I knew what I thought and felt deep inside, but little of it came out into the world.

"From the outside, it looked like I didn't trust other people. Yes, I did need to be careful sometimes. But mainly, I didn't trust myself."

•Didn't trust that the authentic me was good enough, lovable enough—and that I'd still be OK if I did mess up. Didn't have confidence in my own depths, the core of me, that it already contained goodness, wisdom, and love. Didn't trust the unfolding process of living without tight top-down control. Doubted myself, my worth, my possibilities.

And so I lived all squeezed up, doing well in school and happy sometimes—but mainly swinging between numbness and pain.

•In Erik Erikson's eight stages of human development, the first, foundational, one is about "basic trust." He focused on trust and mistrust of the outer world and to be sure this is important. Yet often what looks like "the world is untrustworthy" is at bottom "I don't trust myself to deal with it."

•It's been a lifelong journey to develop more faith in myself, to lighten up, loosen up, swing out, take chances, make mistakes and then repair and learn from them, and stop taking myself so seriously.

•Sure, things go wrong sometimes when you trust yourself more. But they go really wrong and stay wrong when you trust yourself less.

•How?

Nobody is perfect. You don't need to be perfect to relax, say what you really feel, and take your full shot at life. It's the big picture that matters most, and the long view. Yes, top-down tight control and a well-crafted persona may bring short-term benefits. But over the long-term, the costs are much greater, including stress bottled-up truths, and inner alienation.

•With gentleness and self-compassion, take a look at yourself. Is there self-doubt, holding back, fear of looking bad or failing? If you imagine being your full self out loud, is there an expectation of rejection, misunderstanding, or a shaming attack?

•Understandably, we are concerned about what seems "bad" or "weak" inside. But challenge that labelling: Are those things actually so bad, so weak? Maybe they're just rattled, desperate, or looking for love and happiness in young or problematic ways.

•Maybe you've internalised the criticism of others, and have been hugely exaggerating what is wrong about you.

•And missing so much that is already right.

•When you ease up and tap into your own core, when you are in touch with your body, in your experience as you express it—what's that like? How do others respond? What are you able to accomplish, at home or work?

•Sure, be prudent about the outer world and recognise when it's truly unwise to let go, take risks, speak out. And guide your inner world like a loving parent recognising that not every thought or feeling or want should be said or enacted.

•Meanwhile, if you are like me and every single person I have ever known who has decided to trust ones own deep self, you will find so much that's right inside: so much knowing of what's true and what matters, so much life and heart, so many gifts waiting to be given, so many strengths.

Be your whole self; it's your whole self that you can trust. This day, this week, this life—see what happens when you bet on yourself, when you back your own play. See what happens when you let yourself fall backward into your own arms, trusting that they will catch you.

•Here’s my personal advice for trust:-

•“I Personally believe that Trusting your self is confidence. Over confidence is Being proudy. Always trust and respect –

•1. Yourself

•2. Your Parents, they’ll die but never think ill of you.

•3. Your Teachers, they show us the right direction, provide us speed etc. Their teachings whether good or bad, you probably don’t know what it is. You’ll realise it in the future. Making funny names doesn’t mean you aren’t respecting them! Its just fun!

•Trusting someone else is absolutely personal to you but the above mentioned 3 persons are mandatory to trust and be respected.Trusting someone else is absolutely personal to you but the above mentioned 3 persons can be blindly trusted and are mandatory to be trusted and respected.”

3.FEAR

•I recommend reading How to overcome fears on wikiHow.com  first.

•What are you fearing of?

It’s 100% normal to have fears. You may experience fear when you ride a bike for the first time or when you start a new job. However, when fears begin to overtake your life and affect your functioning, they become a problem. If your fears feel overwhelming, the distress from the fear can interfere with your ability to function and you may experience intense anxiety or nervousness. Reflect on your fears and notice how much they affect your life. Are your fears keeping you from moving forward with what you want in your life? The following are some considerations:

•Your fear causes intense anxiety or panic.

•You recognise that your fear is not rational.

•You avoid specific places or situations.

•Avoidance of the fear causes distress and interferes with your functioning.

•The fear has persisted 6 months or more.

•Fears often manifest as phobias, which can include situations (fear of public speaking or raising your hand), animals (fear of snakes or spiders), blood, injections, etc. When you experience fear, physiological, mental, and emotional reactions occur, which can include:

•Racing heartbeat

•Difficulty breathing

•Feeling dizzy

•Sweating

•Overwhelming anxiety, panic

•Needing to escape

•Feeling detached

•Feeling like you may faint or die

•Feeling powerless to your fear, even if you know it’s irrational

•Recognise that your fear is valid, but also needs to be addressed. Fear is an adaptive function that prolongs our lives. Do you walk up to a cliff’s edge and suddenly feel fearful? This is adaptive fear, and it tells you, “This could be dangerous and cost you your life. Take caution.” Fear triggers a “fight-or-flight” response, which readies our bodies to take action in order to protect ourselves.

•Avoiding fears only makes them scarier. Whatever your fear, if you face it, it should start to fade. If you panic one day getting into a lift, for example, it's best to get back into a lift the next day.

•For this method you need to develop a negative mindset! It’ll help you Try imagining the worst thing that can happen – perhaps it's panicking and having a heart attack. Then try to think yourself into having a heart attack. It's just not possible. The fear will run away the more you chase it. Negative mind is never permanent, it is temporary and tough. Face it and transform into a positive person with a lot of experience (overcoming the fears). If the Negative aspect isn’t getting through into your mind, contact me!  

•Life is full of stresses, yet many of us feel that our lives must be perfect. Bad days and setbacks will always happen, and it's important to remember that life is messy.

•Take a moment to close your eyes and imagine a place of safety and calm. It could be a picture of you walking on a beautiful beach, or snuggled up in bed with the cat next to you, or a happy memory from childhood. Let the positive feelings soothe you until you feel more relaxed.

•Lots of people turn to alcohol or drugs to self-treat anxiety, but this will only make matters worse. Simple, everyday things like a good night's sleep, a wholesome meal and a walk are often the best cures for anxiety, instead :

GO BACK TO THE BASICS

•Here’s my personal advice for fear.

•Fear has 2 meanings

•Face everything and race!

•Forget everything and run!

•The choice is yours!

•What is fear?

•I personally treat fear as :- “Fear is just the disability of the mind which limits us not to achieve success. Live the life that you have nothing to lose. No one to follow. Develop an ideology of yours. Get inspired, motivate rather not getting influenced. Live life in your style.”

4.Stress

•Stress affects our mental and physical health. So stop taking stress. How? I am not saying stop caring. Work and work harder and harder (in the right direction). Do not get tensed or take stress. Taking stress will get you nowhere. You have an exam tomorrow, you are stressed because your preparation is weak. Just leave it and work hard. If you are tensed a lot! Take a break. Refresh yourself. Play some game, read a book, watch a movie. It’ll benefit your mental state and health.

•Here’s my personal advice for stress:-

•“Suppose I am tensed about something. I don’t give a damn! To it. I just trust myself. I work hard. I refresh. I trust my parents, God and my teachers who have taught me lessons of life. I personally dump the stress into the bin! Who cares? Why to take something that is harming me.”

5.Develop your own moral conduct and practise sticking to it. 

•Start by overcoming bad habits. Stop smoking, over-eating, and abusive drinking. These are examples of lapses or habits that will prevent you from functioning at your peak. They also let you "off the hook" by sidestepping the analysis of why you use these crutches instead of finding better ways to brighten your life!

•This step may take some major rehabilitation for some individuals but putting it into the too-hard basket won't make it go away. Remember, you can't drive your life forward if you are always gazing through your rear-view mirror!

6.Organise

•You may find that having all your other affairs in order will help expedite the process to grabbing a firm hold on your identity. So clean your room. Do your homework. Resolve that fight with that friend. Getting everything else out of the way will clear up the path to "me" time.

•Here’s my personal advice to organise :-

•“Keeping everything arranged in proper order helps us develop a peace of mind! The most essential thing.”

7.Self- Motivation

•Give yourself some time and space to get away from the expectations, the conversations, the noise, the media, and the pressure. Take some time each day to go for a long walk and think. Plant yourself on a park bench and look. Take a long, thoughtful road trip. Whatever you do, move away from anything that distracts you from contemplating your life and where you want it to go. In solitude, you should feel independent and self-sufficient, not lonely, needy or afraid.

•Here’s my personal advice on Self motivation:- 

•“Lay on the bed for 30 minutes with peaceful music into your ears. Converse to your soul! Understand yourself! It’ll help you. It’ll frame the priorities.”

8.Seek Your passion

•My personal advice on seeking your passion:-

“Whenever frustrated, follow your passion. Something productive.”

9.Find a mentor

•Success is impossible to reach without a mentor. A mentor builds you!

•Here’s my personal advice on finding a mentor:-

•“I listen to everyone, but do what I think is right. I get motivated. I get inspiration, but I am a mentor of myself.”

10.Find your true ones

Let go of the need to be loved by all. Accept that some people will think poorly of you no matter what you do. It's important to forget about what everyone else thinks because you cannot please everyone. And while you might not want to disappoint the people close to you, they should want you to be happy. As long as you continue to exist just to fulfil other people's ideas of who you should be, you'll never know who you really are. This thought is aptly summed up by Raymond Hull:  "He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away.”Find your true ones stick to them.

11.Get ready for dead ends!

•Its Failure, or the wrong direction. It may also be lack of hard work.

•My personal advice is:-

•“Read the other post on this blog and the topic failure in this one.”

12. Serve Others

•Always keep serving others. Serving others is a job of commitment. It gives you blessings, contentment, satisfaction, relief etc.

13.Never Forget Your Past

•Never ever forget your past! It’s how you have reached till here. No past = No present = No future.

•Past is experience, present is work, Future is Achievement.

14.Keep finding yourself!

   The thoery of life by Rahul:-

“ Past needs to be negative, as you transform into a positive person after shedding the negativity when true time comes. Remember, like all other roads to success this one is also very tough to conquer. Never be misguided. Always be self-aware. Past is history. Present is studying history. Future is creating history. I always live the life in my way! People motivate me, influence me. Doesn’t make an impact. I just drill the facts so that when necessary these would help me out! So when the soul is purifying into a positive one out of a negative one, these thoughts come to action. They impact your lives, and you realise the POWER OF POSITIVITY! •Well, positivity is must! But behind positivity if negativity isn’t there then the pace of life would be slowed down. So all the negative people out there, Waiting for the time to come. The time is Tomorrow! Plan today Work Tomorrow! Grasp the knowledge as much as you can! LIVE a life worth living. Live it in style. Do not let the negativity overpower the soul and keep the spark of positivity alive. The right time is what you need. It’ll come when you need it! Believe, Trust, Work. IN STYLE!”

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